Red Flags : Every Woman should know these!

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Have you ever been in a relationship that disintegrates without warning? You’re left wondering what went wrong and wished you’d seen it coming. The fact is, the signs were present, but you ignored them. During dating, many of us experience the stomach-fluttering feelings associated with a new flame. We’re so caught up in the novelty of being in love we often miss the blatant warnings—until it’s too late. Well…

Here are some signs to look out for when getting to know someone:

• He doesn’t have goals. If you are like me then you would agree that this is the most important one of all. A man without a goal is like a ship that sets sail with no destination. If he has no plan, and he’s content with living a mediocre lifestyle, you may find you must carry his financial baggage throughout the relationship. The experts recommend that you determine his short-term/long-term goals from as soon as possible.

• Inconsistent behaviour patterns. In the beginning, he may show an incredible amount of interest (he calls/texts frequently, takes you out often). If he displays the opposite behaviour (e.g. he disappears for long stretches and reappear when it’s convenient), then it means his feelings have changed. You may communicate your issues, but if there’s no improvement, then you need to let him go.

• Moves too quickly. If you meet someone and he begins an immediate declaration of love—run! It takes time to fall in love, so perhaps he’s only in lust. Also, if you’re only dating a month and he wants to move in, meet the parents or talk about marriage and kids, those are definite red flags. Guys who move super-fast always leave just as fast.

• Mismatched core values. From the start of the relationship, it’s recommended that you assess and determine if he meets your basic standards (faithfulness, honesty, emotional availability etc.). If he doesn’t, please do not ignore the writing on the wall and proceed while hoping for an improvement. Ladies, a man will only change for one woman. That woman may not be you. Are you willing to take that risk?

• He’s negative. During the relationship, he tries to bring down your mood with pessimism. He’s distrustful of any plans for success and tries to discourage you from trying something new. He’s unwilling to take any form of risks, but still complains about how hard life is. You don’t need that energy in your life, especially if you are a forward-thinking, success-driven woman. Men with a negative outlook often “bad-mind” a woman’s progress.

• He lies about his finances. If the early stages of dating his financial status seemed more elevated than it is now, it could be a red flag. For instance, when you first met him, he drove a BMW 7 Series, now suddenly he’s taking the bus (I’m exaggerating but you get the gist), or the lease on his apartment uptown is up and he’s back living with his parents. Now, it could mean he’s having a hard time, but it’s not something you should ignore.

• He constantly talks about his ex. A casual mention of an old flame is no cause for alarm, but if she becomes a constant topic of conversation, then it means he hasn’t moved on. Do not invest in an inevitable heartbreak.

• He regularly leaves his wallet on dates: Now, we all make mistakes, and we should not note a first-time error as a red flag. But if becomes a constant occurrence, ladies, please take note. He’s a free-loader, and a dishonest one at that. The relationship is most likely to develop into one where you are paying all the bills and you don’t want that, trust me.

To reduce the possibility of a broken heart, conduct a proper assessment of your partner during early dating. Trust your instinct. If your intuition sends you a direct message to high-tail it out of the relationship—do it! You’ll thank it later.

About the author:

I was born in Kingston, Jamaica. From an early age I’ve developed the habit of binge reading which led me to my love of romance, mystery and suspense novels. I began writing in my teens (newspaper articles and short stories). With encouragement from my family and friends I wrote and self-published my first novel. 

Through my intriguing novels I offer a temporary escape from reality. I’m passionate about providing an unforgettable experience to my readers. 

I’m also a food blogger, dance choreographer and personal assistant. I enjoy dining out, lives for days at the spa and loves island trotting.

Here are my current novels:

• Sweet Unholy Revenge: A cheating wife’s demise.
• Sweet Unholy Revenge: The return of karma.
• A Mistress and a Murder: The beginning of the end.
• A Mistress and a Murder: Secrets Uncovered.
• Dark Obsession: The lover from hell.

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