If there is one thing that my research into well-being and civic engagement has taught me, it is this; every child needs at least ‘One Good Adult’ in order to thrive.

According to the National Health Service (NHS) in the United Kingdom, One Good Adult’ recognises the need for “a dependable adult who can support and protect the mental well-being of a child or young person”.

A study conducted among Irish people in 2012, showed that children and young adults aged 12-24, need this ‘One Good Adult’ in order to avoid mental health problems.

One Good Adult was a key indicator of the ability of a young person to cope with their struggles. The absence of such a supportive individual in a child’s life can lead to higher levels of distress and anti-social behaviour. Even an increase in the risk of attempted suicide.

When children and adults are able to find someone with whom they can share their troubles, the risk or mental distress is reduced and positive well-being increases.

I believe this is the reason we often see some children, while never seeming to have any respect for their own parents, having absolute deference and respect for a coach or other non-family or distant relative in their lives.
He or she has found in that person, the ‘One Good Adult’; a single supportive individual who loves him or her regardless of the faults and difficulty; the champion – he or she needs.

I have made a vow to myself to try to be the ‘One Good Adult’ in the life of every child with whom I come in contact. Especially when I hear reports from their parents; usually single mothers or neighbours; of how ‘challenging’, ‘difficult’, or ‘rude’ said child is. I remember a time when I too
needed One Good Adult.

As responsible individuals, we do not need to be the parent, teacher, or guardian of a child to show him or her love, affection, and support.

Sometimes, you are the only person in his or her life who does that, so do it. A life may depend on it.

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